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Dated for 6 months and we argued a fair bit, we’re pretty damn toxic to eachother but we were so similar, same music taste, same humour and everything. I can’t listen to the same music genre, even music in general makes me want to call HER and tell her about it. I didn’t treat her the best neither did she to me. She got back with her ex about 2 Months after our breakup it’s been 3.5 months now. She told me she blocked me because her new bf was upset about us texting every now and then and threatens to leave her when we text... secretly she still texts me and calls me ONLY when she’s upset or she wants to get angry at me and very rarely we have a conversation it’s always about problems. Never ever replies to me or answers my call but I’m always dropping what I’m doing for her. I’m super whipped and for some Reason I can’t stop thinking and dreaming about her when I know I don’t deserve that, we both gaslighted and manipulated eachother during our relo but I’m addicted to it. I feel like she’s only texting and calling me incase her ex leaves her, but some part of me keeps telling myself she wants and needs me. It’s turning my mental and emotional state into a Yo-yo, so up and down and I know I need no contact but Everytime I block her number it’s unblocked within a few hours, I’ve tried probably 1000 times to block her. This sucks and all I can think about is them two together loving life.
2020.09.19 08:36 321revolnropMy JoJo's Bizarre Adventure theory(ies) that is TECHNICALLY true in the given canon.
So, first off...SPOILER ALERT to anyone who has not watched or read JJBA. I would give specific parts but it's pretty much the entire series. But specific parts are: Part 1 (Phantom Blood), Part 2 (Battle Tendencies), Part 3 (Stardust Crusaders), Part 4 (Diamond is Unbreakable), Part 5 (Golden Wind), and Part 7 (Steel Ball Run). Proceed at your own risk. Second off, there was no "Theory" flair available, so I iust used the "review" flair since its KINDA the closest...? Also, forgive me for not remembering years and dates and stuff like that. Its 2 am where I'm from and I have work, a quiz, and a party tomorrow so please cut me some slack here. Everyone caught up? Good. Let's begin. Theory 1: Joseph Joestar isn't the only Joestar to cheat on his wife. We all know the loveable Joseph Joestar. The old man who spits out sharp lines, the guy who can accurately predict people's next lines, and the only member of the stardust crusaders to know the ancient ripple breathing technique, Hamon. However Joseph is also know for something else. He is the "only" JoJo in the long line of JoJo's to have cheated on their significant other after marriage. Sometime after his supposed funeral, he cheats on his wife, Suzie Q, with another woman to conceive the main character of JJBA Part 4, Josuke Higashikata. He gets a lot of hate for this. However, if you look at it from a technical stand point, one other Joestar has done this. And it's not who you think. Good ol' gentleman Jonathan Joestar had his life cut short in a boat explosion when he killed himself and long time rival/adoptive brother, Dio Brando. Dio took Jonathons body from the neck down and survived the explosion to be fished out of the ocean and going by the name DIO, using Jonathan's body and his own head. From this point on, what we see in part 3, he stays trying to end the Joestar bloodline, by trying to kill Joseph and Jotaro. However, as we find out in Part 5 and 7, DIO got a little busy while in between what we see. He has some children with unnamed women which result in children like Giorno Giovanna, and Diego Brando. The latter of which eventually just going by Dio. Some of you may know where I'm going with this. Since the whole baby making parts are below the neck, Jonathan Joestar cheated on his beloved Erina after she died. Even though it wasnt his control, he did cheat. It is canonical that Giorno has both Joestar blood and Brando blood running through him, as revealed to us by Koichi in part 5 when he says he senses Joestar blood in him. Therefore, it was Jonathan's body which resulted in Giorno's birth. However, DIO does get some comeuppance. Theory 2: DIO dies a virgin. As previously stated, DIO takes over Jonathan's body prior to having kids. As I also stated before, the baby making process takes place below the neck. Therefore, Dio never used his own baby making parts and therefore dies a virgin when Jotaro split him open. If there is anybody who has any other theories (I had some more, but I forgot what they were. Keep in mind, I'm seriously drowned in exhaustion and business.) feel free to chat in the comments, but PLEASE DO SO RESPECTFULLY AND KINDLY! Thank you.
Hey everyone, I’m sure you’ve heard similar situations a thousand times over... but I’d like to hear what you all think. When I enlisted I had spoken of going to some CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) classes and talking to someone about depression and stuff a few years back. I had no idea if any of it was “on paper”. After going through MEPS not mentioning it (by the advice of my recruiter) I have found out later that it is in fact on paper and I have an official diagnosis of depression on my civilian medical record. My ship date is October 1st, I had never done anything like self harm or attempted suicide like that. My plan is to call the chief of my office and be straight up about the whole situation (she knows of the “therapy”). I eventually want to go into the ATF so when I go for a top security clearance they will absolutely find it and I think I’d get busted for fraudulent enlistment. If I am already sworn in and waiting to ship out would that make me possibly get busted for fraudulent enlistment in my current state? Maybe I’m just looking for some affirmation that this is the right choice to try and get it written down and get a waiver for it. I would appreciate the honest feedback especially from recruiters!
2020.09.19 08:07 alkalineStriderNeed some help choosing my next video card!
What will you be doing with this PC? Be as specific as possible, and include specific games or programs you will be using.
I got this PC a few years ago, I use it mostly for work(Android Studio) and to be fair it gets the job done pretty well, but since the quarantine started, I've discovered the awesome world of the Skyrim's modding community, and I'm playing it like crazy since then, however my current PC can't barely keep 30fps on low, so I'm planning to upgrade my video card to run Skyrim on Ultra/60fps + mods, that's definitely my highest priority, I don't think I need the best video card available on the market, but something that will be able to run most games from 2000-2015 with a decent performance would be great, games such as GTA V, Dishonored, The Sims 4 etc.. I was considering an AMD RX-570 but I'm open for suggestions..
What is your maximum budget before rebates/shipping/taxes?
When do you plan on building/buying the PC? Note: beyond a week or two from today means any build you receive will be out of date when you want to buy.
What, exactly, do you need included in the budget? (ToweOS/monitokeyboard/mouse/etc)
A new PSU and a video card.
Which country (and state/province) will you be purchasing the parts in? If you're in US, do you have access to a Microcenter location?
If reusing any parts (including monitor(s)/keyboard/mouse/etc), what parts will you be reusing? Brands and models are appreciated.
My current specs are an i5-3330, 8Gb RAM-DDR3, 2TB HDD, AMD R5-230/HD6450 2GB, 230W-PSU and a motherboard model H61-1155 Micro-ATX, I just want to upgrade the video card but I'm aware that I'm gonna need to replace my current PSU too, however I'm not so sure about the motherboard, do I need to replace it ?? How do I know if my motherboard will support a specific video card ?(I tried searching on google, but no success :( ).
Will you be overclocking? If yes, are you interested in overclocking right away, or down the line? CPU and/or GPU?
Are there any specific features or items you want/need in the build? (ex: SSD, large amount of storage or a RAID setup, CUDA or OpenCL support, etc)
Do you have any specific case preferences (Size like ITX/microATX/mid-towefull-tower, styles, colors, window or not, LED lighting, etc), or a particular color theme preference for the components?
Do you need a copy of Windows included in the budget? If you do need one included, do you have a preference?
Part 1: My HOA is a Doozy Part 2: Opening Pandora's Box Part 3: Termite Party Hi lovely people, Thank you for letting me commiserate on this platform. You have been such a support group for me personally. A LOT, yet, very little has been happening and it just has been emotional and exhausting overall. Thank you for your patience with my update. I struggled with this update for various reasons. At times I didn’t think it was “reddit content worthy” because the details in bureaucracy is never sexy, often it is mundane, which is why most (as I realize now) give up in the HOA fight. Life is just too short for this kind of shit. That said, I’d like to start Part Four by saying: UGHHHHHHHHHHL:KDSFJLKSDJFLKSJDFIOSJEILWNEKL:FNWEL:JFNL:JSFL:KAJKLFJKLKLMCLK:JSHDLKFHIUWEHLIUQNJWKNKJFAIJF:IAJ:LKADJGKL:DSJ:LGJDS:IGJIOEGJIOWEHQEJIOWOIJO:IEJO:J:DFJL:AJLI:FSJ:LASJL:DFLJK:DFJLKFUFUKKKCKKCKIOEFOEJFLJEKLFJ:LDSJF:AJ:OFAK:MKLmFMMMLLLLL …which, selfishly feels REALLY good. Sometimes, you just need to scream on the internet; this is a scream of many screams on the internet. Allow me to explain this particular scream: We all left off as the City was notified by The Viking. The City: What can I help you with? The Viking: Hello, I am just wondering what the permit number is for [address] The City: Okay, let me just look this up for you. … … … There is no permit filed… The Viking: Thank you. The Viking ends the call and hands me a number. He says that I’ll need to follow up with The City in the Building Permits Department. The Viking: Lary is going to get his ass smacked. Now, it is important to note, many contractors like to avoid getting the city involved due to various reasons, mostly pertaining to cost, delays, and headache. Unpermitted work is very common in California and most go undetected. HOWEVER, if discovered by the City, fines double and you may have to tear your work down and start from scratch. Permits require engineer sign-offs and City inspections, so the build has to be perfect and up-to-code. If you ever buy a house and there is unpermitted work on the property, just be wary that you may have to pay for the permits (with fines) and that it does not necessarily add value to the house. This is my very rough understanding of permits. That following week, I make the call to The City Building Permits Department where I spoke to very nice gentleman. We’ll call him Big Daddy. Big Daddy: Hey, thank you for following up. I drove by the site the other week and there weren’t any workers there. Do you know when they’ll be back? From the phone call, he sounds like a no-nonsense older type of gentleman. After briefly conversing, I learn he’s the City’s building inspector and has a gratuitous boner for catching people “in the act.” If he can witness illegal activity, the City has much more of a case. Big Daddy and I decide to team up and relinquished Holy hell on Lary. There’s tension in the household air the day Lary’s crew arrive to patch up their shoddy work. Lary’s crew starts hammering the outside wall, scaring Gary, who runs to hide in the closet. One of the crew members knocks on the door asking if they can use an outlet and my boyfriend let’s them (legally, we can’t stop any work they do.) My boyfriend capitalizes on this opportunity to stall them with questions giving me a chance to notify Lary. 10 minutes later, The City truck turns a corner and my boyfriend yeets back inside. The banging of the construction wall halters. I’m peeking from the upstairs balcony. Little Gary, still nestled deep into the closet, has foul diarrhea. There he comes * cue in CEO conference entrance music * Big Daddy comes strutting out with a clipboard and talks to a worker. I can’t hear what’s going on, but the worker makes a quick call and 2 minutes later, Lary quickly pulls up in his truck. I’m sure Lary has diarrhea, too. Lary and Big Daddy converse for a bit, then I see Lary slowly moseying back into his truck. He’s holding a red sticker slip, sifting through whatever papers he received. This construction has been officially deemed illegal and they are to stop IMMEDIATELY. Any further construction will result in arrest. Construction screeches to a stop and the crew leaves. WAR. HAS. BEEN. DECLARED. (fill in between with those words with emoji claps.) At this point, my boyfriend and I are giddy! Lary got caught red handed. But calling the City further complicates and deeply deviates us from our original intention, which was to PEACEFULLY come to a resolution for our interior floors. This is a pivotal moment where I start to loose myself. yaddy yaddy da. Next comes a series of emails that drainssssss our souls. I’ll quickly summarize the (aggravating) dialogue:
We send Barbara an innocuous email. We thank her for scheduling the termite service and then list our reasonable demands which are: to replace the damaged wood floors. If they partially replace the floors, it just needs to seamlessly match or to replace all the floors of equal value.
She responds to the termite service, but does not acknowledge our demands.
We again ask what is the HOA’s response is to the interior damage.
She responds that the board will consider the request once they have a chance.
We ask that she kindly notifies us when the board schedules the meeting.
She responds with an update with the exterior termite service.
5 DAYS LATER
We get no news of anything so we respond thank you for the exterior termite service and inform her there are multiple holes on the side of drywall and our floors (the termite inspectors had to drill into our floors to deposit the poison.) We ask when that will be fixed.
5 DAYS LATER
Barbara still does not respond. We email with a follow up airing our frustrations and call her neglectful.
She responds, but something is different in her response. It’s obvious now she’s either consulted with a lawyer or her circle of property management friends. She tries to make a claim that we stopped construction at the very beginning for our insurance purposes and that she has done her due diligence in combating the exterior termites. She references a section of the CC&R’s Limitation of Liability that says the HOA is not responsible for water damage.
We clarify that we did not stop construction for MONTHS and that Lary was supposed to return the materials removed on site which he never did. We also call her out on trying to cover the wall before termite inspectors were scheduled to come (as caught in the voicemail.) We reminded her we were under the impression that our concerns were a top priority the previous HOA meeting but it’s now been weeks since anyone has addressed our concerns. We clarify (again) that we are dealing with is termite damage; it was the water damage introduced the termites. Then we inquire why there is a hold up on construction.
Barbara responds that there should be no further delays to the exterior repairs (doesn’t mention the City at all.) And says there was no rush to cover up anything. She says Lary said there was no mold. She gives Lary lots of “kudos” for finding the termites so she could fix it as soon as possible.
Next we respond with what I call the “kudos” email. We say kudos to Lary for lifting up our floorboards and telling us to spray bleach and lying about there being no problem, kudos to Lary for reporting zero water damage despite not legally allowing to say if or if there is not any mold, and kudos to Lary for replacing the stud outside incorrectly using indoor screws for an EXTERIOR STRUCTURAL WALL. We ask why is the Board willing to fix the drywall wall damage but NOT the floor damage, despite it being caused by the SAME problem.
Barbara replies the same day with a very lengthy and emotionally charged email. Angrily saying the work was halted due to a complaint and now a permit is required. She defends Lary’s work regarding the stud saying that since the screws are inside, they do not risk water exposure. She attempts to twist our original claim saying we flipped flopped on our interior damage issues stating it was originally water damage and now we are changing it to termite damage. She puts the word “mold” in quotes, saying it’s our “allegation” and there is a report of no mold from Lary.
We respond with a classic red colored inline email old school response.
To her permit complaint, we said “OK, so you authorized illegal work.”
To her interior screw defense, we provided diagrams directly from the city that specifically state that the screws required for a structural wall must be hot dipped zinc coated galvanized steel, not black trim screws that were used and informed her that you use different types of screws in case there is a leak (like ours) so they do not fail.
To her claim that we have been inconsistent with our story we just said, “Please reference email [date/time].” (This is why everything must be in email!!!!!!!)
To her mold defense, we just reminded her Lary is not an abatement contractor or mold specialist. He is not legally allowed to give an opinion on mold.
To her question on our expectations for the boards response to our “allegation of “mold” We just simply ignored it and just reminded her she authorized drilling holes into our slabs and we are wondering when the rest of the work will be completed aka our floors getting fixed.
We also requested financial documents: The Detailed General Ledger from year-to-date and Detailed Vendor Expense List year-to-date and copy of bids received for the wall repairs. She responds with she needs 10 days for the documents and there will be fee that needs to be paid, however she quoted the incorrect financial documents I requested. I specifically requested a DETAILED general ledger and she just quoted a regular general ledger. Basically, she wants to give us a bastardized version of the books. She said since we did not specify which copy of bids she cannot provide them. Again, major eye roll, but technically she is right as I was not as specific enough to what THIS ENTIRE POST AND ISSUE WAS ABOUT. And she tries again to separate the floor issue with the wall issue saying the floors are still not the HOA’s responsibility but they will fix the walls. She tries to get us to agree to just a POTENTIAL partial fix of the floors. Mothhhaaa fuckkkennn weeasssllllll We find out that Lary does file a permit, but it is the WRONG bare-minimum permit. GUYS, I AM LOSING IT. Barbara is willing to stand up for people like Lary because she serves her interests over her ethical duty to curate a harmonious community. She likely gets a cut from giving Lary business which is why she is so firm on defending him. At this point, is it worth it? I get why people don’t bother to challenge the HOA’s. Barbara owns the management company and is protected. If we decide to sue, we sue ourselves, essentially. Our HOA will pay the lawyer fees…from a pool of money that we paid into. Our HOA cannot sue Barbara likely due to contracts the HOA agreed to. So, what do we do? As much as I desire revenge, the Viking could just come in and fix our floors at true cost (as he had lovingly offered) but what about this emotional investment in this four month savage struggle? As my boyfriend and I are trying to restructure our lives during these times, I find myself questioning if it is worth it. We don’t have the money to fight them, as we have been furloughed and thankfully my boyfriend JUST started working again (I am so proud of him) and this is not our “forever” home. But what about those who are in their forever home dealing with the same mess? There are so many questions lingering, as I find this story incomplete and disappointing because it does not satisfy the revenge thirst that we all crave in a good story. Do I go after Barbara’s license and her management business? (Do I risk getting sued for slander because she’s (sorry to be frank) being a bitch?) Do I send a letter to all residences informing them of what their HOA representatives have been idling observing? (Do I risk getting sued for harassment?) This sucks and I am not clever enough to dig myself out. Best case scenario is we just get our friend to fix the floors and sell the place in a year or two. I realize there are probably many holes and questions in this update. Please ask and questions and I will do my best to answer them. T.T The next HOA’s meeting is THIS Monday.
2020.09.19 07:51 LockdownThoughtsStruggling with learning to be sex positive
I grew up in a very negative environment when it comes to sex. I have a lot of hangups as a result. Ive been in therapy and working on it (along with a lot of other issues). So now I'm at a place where honestly what I need exposure. exposure and experience. However in the current state of the world with the health issues availing us I'm spending a lot of time inside. Going out and dating simply isn't an option and Honestly I'm not sure if I'm ready for that yet. I want to get to know someone who is super comfortable with themselves and can encourage me to explore my sexuality in a casual manner, starting in the safety of internet anonymity. I'm not really looking for a fwb, but also NOT not a fwb. I'm not sure what I'm looking for. Its not an exclusive relationship, more like a friend who is encouraging and understanding. I have no idea how to go about finding this online. In the past Ive tried using reddit, dating sites, ect. with no real progress. THough I did make progress in my comfort level when I had someone I was talking to at some point so I know it helps. I'm looking for advice here I guess. By 27 years old I feel like I should have this stuff figured out.
2020.09.19 07:50 MrBKainXTRLoK Rewatch Season 3 Episodes 12&13: "Enter the Void/ Venom of the Red Lotus"
Book Three Change: Chapters Twelve and Thirteen PreviousHub Next: Book Three Discussion ; S4E1 Reminder: We will be having a discusion thread for Season Three as a whole, so keep the discussion here focused on these episodes themselves. Spoilers: For the sake of those that haven't watched the full series yet, please use the spoiler tag to hide spoilers for majospecific plot points that occur in episodes after the one being discussed. Discord: Discuss on our server as well. Fun Facts/Trivia: -The collapse of the temple while the airbenders are still missing is intended to foreshadow their possible elimination. -Kuvira is voiced by Zelda Williams -Zaheer's line, "we lucky few, this band of brothers and sisters of anarchy," is an allusion to the line, "we happy few, we band of brothers," from Shakespeare's Henry V -Venom of the Red Lotus is the 100th episode of the franchise. -The Red Lotus members die in the reverse order that they were released from prison earlier in the season. Overviews: Korra agrees to turn herself over to Zaheer to save the airbenders, who are being held captive by the Red Lotus. However, she and her friends are betrayed by Zaheer's group. As Ghazan tries to bring down Korra's friends, Bolin discovers he can lavabend and saves them with his new-found skill. Meanwhile, Korra and Tonraq face off with Zaheer on Laghima's Peak while the Beifong sisters attempt to bring down P'Li. Zaheer manages to push Tonraq off the cliff, much to Korra's devastation. Suyin succeeds in metalbending her armor around P'Li's head as she combustionbends; the following explosion kills P'Li instantly. With his earthly tether gone, Zaheer unlocks the ancient ability of flight and escapes, carrying the unconscious Avatar over his shoulder. After Zaheer has the poison administered to Korra, she enters the Avatar State and battles Zaheer, while Bolin and Mako duel Ghazan and Ming-Hua, ultimately killing the Red Lotus members. The captive members of the Air Nation escape, and use their abilities together to help Korra defeat and recapture Zaheer. However, the poison wreaks havoc on Korra; she is unable to move without a wheelchair, and falls into a state of depression. Jinora is anointed as an airbending master by Tenzin, who proclaims that, while Korra recovers, the Air Nation will return to its nomadic roots and serve as the world's ambassadors for peace and balance. Directors: Ian Graham(1), Melchior Zwyer(2); Writers: Mike(1), Joshua Hamiltion (2), Tim Hedrick (2) Air Date: August 22, 2014 (Online), October 9, 2014 (Nicktoons)
2020.09.19 07:37 conquerorofnothingPolyamory reveals problems that monogamy would have kept buried
My heart is absolutely shattered. There is a gaping hole there now that I don't know will ever fully heal. This is a long emotional post, but I just need to share this with a community that can understand, and maybe offer some support and perspective. Honestly, this was just cathartic for me to write. My wife and I decided to start exploring polyam almost two years ago now. We married in 2011 when we were both 23-years-old. From 2012 through 2017, we gradually deconverted and deconstructed our fundamentalist Christian religious beliefs that we had been raised with and held our entire lives. It was a long and painful process, because we were in deep. Once we had deconstructed our religious beliefs, it opened us up to thinking about things we never had before. And as a result, in 2018, my wife began to realize that she was bisexual. We talked about the fact how she had never gotten a chance to explore that, and how unfair that was due to how we were raised and her not realizing that side of her sexuality before we married. After some thought, I told her that I was totally cool with and open to her pursuing romantic and sexual relationships with women. From there, we continued to have deep conversations on sexuality as we continued to deconstruct everything we had been taught and conditioned during our lives while we were evangelical/fundamentalist Christian. I did a lot of reading about bisexuality, polyamory, and sexuality in general. "Sex at Dawn" had a big influence on me (though I didn't read all of it). I ended up realizing that if I were cool with her pursuing experiences with women, why not also men? I didn't own her. She was her own person, and she should be free to express her sexuality however she chose. It made sense to both of us, and she said I should have the same freedom. Through all this, however, she questioned just exactly how sexual she was as a person. We had sex maybe once a week, sometimes every 1.5 to 2 weeks. She wondered if maybe she were on the asexual spectrum, and so did I. The question of whether she was also just more into women than men was also raised. All that took place over 2018 and the early part of 2019. In 2019, she fooled around with a couple people, male and female, but their activities didn't involve intercourse. I mostly just flirted with people at the time. Polyam was more hypothetical for us at this point. In the fall of 2019, my wife started therapy for a number of reasons, but mostly because everyone needs therapy. It was with a polyam-friendly therapist, and that therapist did bring me in for a number of sessions, so that we could discuss our own sexual relationship in an attempt to improve it. We had both grown up in evangelical purity culture, and it had given us the wrong kind of foundation for our sexual relationship. The therapy did help both us in our sex life, and after doing the work the therapist laid out for us, we began to have sex more often, and it was also much better sex than we had ever had in the past. After that brief amount of couple's therapy, we continued having good sex roughly every week for basically all this year (2020). I also ended up sparking a connection with a woman, and we ended up sleeping together this summer. My wife had some feels over it, because it was the first person I had slept with besides her, but she was happy for me. At the same time, my wife met a guy this summer that she liked a lot, and she ended up creating a connection with him. They started talking and hung out a few times, but nothing more than makeouts happened. He was from out-of-state, but they continued talking when he left. Eventually, they made plans for her to visit him (with my enthusiastic encouragement for her). She went to visit him just this past weekend, and I took a few days off work to watch the kids (we have two young children) while she was gone. She was excited, I was excited. It was a big step for her, but a really good one. But I wasn't prepared for what that weekend would reveal for our relationship. When she got back, I was really happy for her, and proud of her for the step she had taken. This guy was only the second person she had ever had full-blown intercourse with. Yet as we were debriefing her weekend, and how it went for her, some things spontaneously dawned on me that shed light on our own sexual relationship. Things that maybe I knew in a deep part of my psyche, but had built up walls around for my own protection. My wife told me that she and her friend had a lot of sex this past weekend. Multiple times a day, each day. She herself initiated many of the encounters. In the course of our marriage, which is nine years now, I can count on one hand the number of times where my wife and I have had sex multiple times a day. I can also count on one hand the number of times where my wife actually initiated sex with me herself, instead of me initiating (and of those times where she initiated, they were all times where she felt I could benefit from having sex, but she wasn't necessarily really interested herself). In the early days of our marriage (we didn't have intercourse before marriage), we tended to have sex maybe once every few days or so, if that. We weren't having it multiple times a day, either. I initiated, and not every time I tried was successful. Based on our sex life, we both thought maybe my wife was possibly somewhat ace/asexual. Or maybe she had low libido. Or she was just more interested in women. But all those thoughts were wrong. She's not on the asexual spectrum. She doesn't have low libido. She's definitely interested in men. She's just...not sexually attracted to me. Her experiences this past weekend made things clear for both of us. She realized she's never been sexually attracted to me, even when we were dating. It's always been purely emotional for her apparently. It honestly explains so much about our marriage. We don't blame each other for any of it, though. How could we have known? I was the first person she ever kissed, and we were both each other's first real serious relationship. Neither of us knew anything about sex. And she had been led to believe that sexual attraction came after the wedding vows, that God basically turned it "on" after you were husband and wife. Which is absolutely fucked. So she's never wanted me sexually. She said she is romantically attracted to me (and has been the whole time, including dating), and she said that she does find me pleasing to look at (she called it aesthetic attraction)...but she's just not sexually attracted to me. To be honest, that doesn't make any sense to me. I don't know she can be both romantically and aesthetically attracted to me, but not sexually. We are each other's best friends. We have a wonderful life together (including our two children). We can talk about anything, and we are each other's constant source of support and love. We have such an incredibly deep emotional bond that others have said they want what we have. We even survived deconstructing our religious beliefs together, and came out of it even stronger. Literally everything about relationship is great, except for this. It hurts so much. I feel hollow, like the color has gone out from the world. When I look at her, it feels like I don't see the same person anymore. I instead see someone who looks like my wife, but is someone I know isn't attracted to me and doesn't love me the same way I do her. I feel like someone has died. I feel sick. I am destroyed. I've been really struggling this week. Panic attacks, crying, dark thoughts. I don't want to live this reality. I'm not legitimately considering ending my life. I may fantasize about it, I may not want to live anymore, but I need to be there for my children and for her. But the pain is just so much. I haven't felt this way since my dad passed away, and I might actually feel worse now than I did at that time. I just keep thinking about how I'll never experience a full connection with my wife. The woman I've loved for the past 10 years, my soulmate, doesn't feel the same way about me as I do her. My life feels like a lie. I know some of that might be toxic monogamy. No one can be everything for their partner. But it doesn't change how much it fucking. HURTS. It doesn't hurt that she had sex with someone else. I'm not jealous, I wanted that for her. I'm happy for her. I want her to be as fulfilled as possible in every way as a person. I'm just so broken over the fact that she never has and never will desire me like that. She can look at that friend from this past weekend and think, "I want to fuck him." But she's never thought that about me, and never will. All the excuses I had in my head, that she maybe was asexual, or had low libido, or was just more into women, are all gone now. The illusions are shattered. The mental walls that I must have built in my mind to protect myself have been torn down. All I'm left with is the hard, bitter truth that my wife doesn't feel about me the way I do about her. That any sexual intimacy we have is one-sided—I desire her, but she doesn't desire me. I honestly don't understand how she's ever had sex with me, at all, if she's not sexually attracted to me. It's so confusing. We've had frequent good sex all this year (we've had good sex in years prior, too, but the brief couple's therapy in late 2019 helped to make good sex happen more often). I've been able to bring her to climax since the early days of our marriage (she doesn't fake it, and she wouldn't lie). She says that enjoys having sex with me, but I don't understand how that's possible if she's not sexually attracted to me. On the other side of the spectrum, there are and have been plenty of times over the course of our marriage where things might be heading in a sexual direction, but she shuts it down. I want to stay with her, she's still my best friend and my primary life partner. We both love each other so goddamn much. I want to make this work. She said she does, too. She said her therapist has even told her that we have an emotionally-based sex life, so she essentially already knew that she no sexual attraction to me. It's just this past weekend removed the illusions for me. I don't regret polyamory. I think it's probably what we both needed in the long run. But if we had stayed monogamous, these issues would maybe have remained buried. We're planning on going to sex therapy, but I don't know how it will fix anything. You can't create sexual attraction if it's not already there. My wife said she doesn't find anything wrong with me. She says she thinks I'm good-looking, but she's just not sexually attracted to me. She can't give any specific reason. And on the flip side, even though I desire her, I don't want to have sex with her right now, because it would just make me feel gross, due to the knowledge that it's one-sided, that I desire her but not the other way around. It all just seems like some kind of bad dream. It's a cruel joke of the universe that we could have an amazing connection in every way but this. I could go on, but I would just be repeating myself. I just had to get this off my chest. Thank you.
2020.09.19 07:21 linay6231Alejandro Jodorowsky Finds the Dune Trailer Predictable
The Chilean-French filmmaker tried to adapt Frank Herbert’s novel but couldn’t, and now he just gives his best wishes for the success of Villeneuve’s upcoming film. As promised, Warner Bros. released the trailer of Denis Villeneuve’s upcoming film “Dune,” the latest adaptation of Frank Herbert’s novel, which is now a Christmas tentpole. Alejandro Jodorowsky tried to adapt Herbert’s story in 1970 in which he was not successful because of financial issues (the saga which has been relayed in a 2013 documentary “Jodorowsky’s Dune”), and now in a recent interview with France’s Premiere Magazine, he reflected his thoughts on the newly released trailer and wished good luck to Denis and the entire production staff. In his comment, Jodorowsky remarked that though the scenes are really good, the money which made the film very expensive did nothing about its predictability. He added again that there wasn’t any “surprise” that the trailer threw at him. Denis Villeneuve’s Dune looks pretty much the same in “form,” as did the other on-screen adaptations of Frank Herbert’s novel. He said that the setup, the lighting, and the acting looks pretty predictable. https://preview.redd.it/uozqolakh1o51.jpg?width=1500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a37af4b643c115c88c78c85953a6316b5b12f159 He continued by expounding his opinion of industrial cinema that Villeneuve’s “Dune” is a part of. He clearly stated that industrial cinema is made solely for the purpose of entertainment, and for the industry, everything else is secondary when compared to money and profit. He compared the industrial cinema with auteur cinema and said that whatever mainstream film industry does, it promotes entertainment with it. It is not built with the purpose of changing society or humanity. However, in an interview with IndieWire in August, Alejandro Jodorowsky was skeptical about anyone pulling off such a film. David Lynch tried to make it in 1984, which resulted in a monumental failure starting with Lynch taking his name from the credits after he was denied his director cut and his total disapproval of the theatrical cut. In the interview with the premiere magazine, Jodorowsky also gave his insights on the book. He said that Frank Herbert’s book is like a Proustian narrative so much so that despite it belonging to the genre of science fiction, in its core, it is a literary piece. And according to him, that is what makes it so hard to adapt because it’s not a child’s play to find images to substitute the words written in the novel. He relayed the memories of 1984 when his son forced him to watch the film, which he was sure he wouldn’t because that was his dream which was given to someone else. But, when he reluctantly agreed to do it, he was satisfied because Lynch’s film was nothing but a horrible blunder. He realized afterward that “Dune” is iconic, and it really is unadaptable. He was convinced that nobody can ever be successful in a true adaptation of Frank Herbert’s novel. Dune is an upcoming Warner Bros. tentpole whose December the 18th release date, however, is on the fringes of an inevitable delay as DC’s Wonder Woman has been slated to be released on Christmas Day. Dune will be pushed to 2021. But, in a recent interview with Stephen Colbert, Denis Villeneuve, along with his cast, said that the production team is working tirelessly to finish the film before December. “Dune,” a modern adaptation of Frank Herbert’s novel, has been budgeted around $200 million, and the story will be told in 2 parts. The first film stars Timothee Chalamet in the lead role of Paul Atreides. He is supported by co-star Zendaya as Chani and actors Rebecca Fergusson (Lady Jessica), Jason Momoa, Dave Bautista, Oscar Isaac, Stellan Skarsgard, Javier Bardem, Josh Brolin, and Chang Chen form a stellar cast. Only time can tell what Villeneuve can deliver with “Dune.” Source :- https://redtopix.com/blog/alejandro-jodorowsky-finds-the-dune-trailer-predictable/
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2020.09.19 06:49 RosalaineI feel responsible for the suicide of my ex last year and just need to let it out somewhere...
I was in a long distance relationship for a few years. It was great in the beginning but had tons of red flags based on the problems the prior partner had with him. Eventually, he came to visit me and while nothing bad happened I did realize after spending a week together face-to-face that it was never going to work. When he went back home I tried to put up some boundaries and add some distance between us while still remaining as supportive as I could. He'd struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts, so even when we were no longer romantically involved I tried to remain friends with him. Over time, he drained me. No matter how I tried to help it was useless. As someone with depression who's had suicidal thoughts I understood, but also trying to fix someone else was breaking me further. Fast forward to a point where we were no longer dating and I had put up more boundaries, we were still involved in certain group activities together but over all didn't spend much time together privately. Always with friends. I don't want to go into details, but his general demeanor was passive aggressive and manipulative. His behavior had pushed away several friends we'd shared, to the point where I could only be friends with them in secret. Eventually, this spread to our main group of friends as well, and between his generally bad attitude and the way he treated me it was collectively decided that we needed to break things off. At the same time, he'd ran into issues with a different group of friends which I wasn't involved with. This had triggered talk of suicide and I was trying to get him to seek help. I'd lost his mother's phone number, but I did know his address and such so I ended up calling his local police department (I have anxiety about phones, so it was hard but I was so afraid he was going to do something I had to try.) The police went to the house and he wasn't home, but got in contact with his mother and found they were out together, shopping for a wedding and having dinner. He lived with his mother, and both of them assured the officer that there was nothing wrong, that he was fine and any claims of suicide or having a firearm were untrue. I was contacted by the officer after he'd reached out to them and assured that everything was fine, told that it was just one of those online things and I was being manipulated. This is what pushed me and the group to cut ties with him. I felt like everything was just his way of controlling me, that all these years of threats and such were how he kept me around and made sure I did what he wanted. As a result, the next day we made that decision, and I took responsibility for the situation - I didn't want him hating everyone else. I tried again to get him to look into therapy or anything to help, but he refused. This was his last message to me: "the thing I lied about yesterday I did buy a gun goodbye" Following that message I panicked and contacted his brother, as that was the only family member I could find a way to contact. He told me he'd spoken to their mother and that she assured him there was no gun, but that there was and he had shot himself and was gone. I was in disbelief, thinking it must've been a trick, or that he'd asked his brother to lie to me, but I managed to find the police radio confirming it. After, I spoke to his mother on the phone and confirmed it to our mutual friends who had less manner of contact. This all happened over a year ago. I still blame myself for the way I handled everything, for not doing more. I feel like I pushed him over the edge, even though people around me say it wasn't my fault. I feel responsible. I think, in the end, he would've always ended up there for one reason or another, but in this case it was me who forced his hand. Who made him feel hopeless and alone when I could've just toughed through it and done more. I don't always think about it, but it pops into my head at the weirdest times. I'll be doing something and realize that he would've enjoyed it but now he's gone and never will, such as never getting to play a game he liked a lot again. It makes me feel wrong for enjoying such things myself, like I had a hand in stealing away his ability to ever do that again. Suicide and gunshots in shows/movies send me into a weird, panicked state, and I don't know if it's considered PTSD, or if I'm even able to have PTSD when I wasn't there for the suicide or the funeral or any of it. I know this is a lot to read, maybe more backstory and such than needed, but I was just sort of hopeful someone else can relate to the situation, and to feeling like it's your fault. I don't like to bring it up around our mutual friends that I still spend time with, I don't like to remind them of it.
2020.09.19 06:41 BrolociraptorAITA? Finding an apartment with a friend, but I’m trying to wait.
The situation is this. I recently moved home after living elsewhere for a year, a friend of mine (Friend A) asks me if we’d like to move in together. I’m generally a loner so I don’t like sharing my space, but I make an exception. So I try to figure out when she might be ready, and she tells me soon so I don’t get too serious about looking. This happens during late June early July. I’m telling another friend about this (Friend B) and she also asks if I’d like to include her and she’s cool so I say what the hell, but tell her I’m waiting on my other friend(A) and that I want to have a job first. Friend B has no job but wants to move ASAP and cited this as her only concern. I acknowledge, and she asks if I’d like to look for places, I say sure thinking that things were mostly casual at this point. This is mid July to early August. Fast forward a week and Friend B and I have exchanged listings and I have secured a job, but won’t be starting it till early Sept, and Friend A is no longer able to move so it’s just myself and Friend B. Friend B asks if I’d like to look at places and I say why not since I’ve got a job lined up now. This is late August. So now we set up a few places to look at over a couple of days in early September before I start my job. We find one we both really like, and she asks me if I’d be willing to sign a lease within a week, I say yes, but with the caveat of looking at one more place that ends up being unavailable. A few hours after this exchange Im feeling more uncertain, so I tell her this and that I’d like to wait a couple of weeks so I can think it over and start my job. This starts a huge argument because she was upset that I kept pushing the date back and says I was being inconsiderate of the one thing she was concerned about. I take great offense to this as I feel like I’m just trying to be in a secure situation, and waiting a few weeks isn’t a huge amount of time. We reconcile somewhat and she asks me when I would be ready to sign a lease, I initially tell her early October, and say we can start looking at the end of Sept. Tonight, we were hanging out and she brings it up again (a topic I was not trying to talk about) this time asking me when we can look at places. I’m working now and Thursday’s are my day during the week I’m off, so I say next Thursday (Oct2) This starts another argument, where she again calls me inconsiderate of her and makes a huge deal about it being just a few days later than previously stated. I get upset at her for calling me inconsiderate again, and try to defend myself and the night blows up. I see her perspective, I really do, but I don’t think that the amount of time I have wanted to wait has been unreasonable. We’re really good friends and I genuinely like the idea of living with her, but I feel extremely attacked when she calls inconsiderate, and I don’t feel that I have been, but I’m not sure. AITA?
2020.09.19 06:34 OnlyatSunriseHeartbroken: BFFs + Roommates but I’m the only one in love(?) [long read]
Hey friends! So as the title explains me (m23) and best friend (m24) are roommates. We’ve been living together a really long while since we both went to state colleges and decided to split off campus rent. We were even friends in high school. Since we’ve been adults it’s been a whirlwind of years (I honestly kinda shocked myself when I realized how long we’ve been living together so well.) But I’ve caught feelings hard for him. I’ve had feelings for him in the past, but he’s never idk, made it apparent? That he felt the same way back. Ever. We’ve had relationships in the past with others, I had two relationships in the last two years and for him (!!!!) he’s had maybe three but I found out after the fact. No, “hey I’m dating this guy wanna see?” Or “I started talking to this guy,” nothing! Super to himself about it. As if we aren’t still friends?? This is where I need help. (Bear with me) He’s a super smart guy, so much so that I think he might be a super high functioning autist? He can recall a lot of specific information on random subjects. (I might be wrong but please don’t come for me, I’ve mulled over this so long maybe my brain is trying to come up with things.)I say this because sex to him is as he says “non essential to the human body’s actual survival. It has benefits, but we won’t die without it. It is purely functional and is only beneficial for stress relief, cognition, and occasionally the common cold” This is the issue, he hasn’t dated anyone recently that I know of. And on top of that, we have sex probably once or twice a week(give or take if we’re busy)with dry spells about a month or so. He usually tops, which I’m all for. Because for some reason, he is the only one who makes me feel like he’s really there in the moment? You know? Like we aren’t just having sex, like we’re making love. He has never said he loved me as in romance. (He’s really big on Greek divisions of love as well) I’ve found myself kind of seeing that in general we exist as if we’re a family. Cooking together, planning bills together, all this other stuff as if we’re practically married. COVID hasn’t been kind. I’ve approached him about it, asking what’s up? What are we? But to him sex is just sex, while for me... well it’s like my hearts all tied up in it. In this situation I can’t see straight (lol) I need some people to just help me out. Tl;dr My longtime best friend/roommate is a gentleman and a scholar who can write an essay about sex, we sex regularly, to me its more about love than function. I have fallen for him. He doesn’t see where love can be in this. I don’t know how to feel.
2020.09.19 06:30 somethinlikeshievaLooking for a good budget-mid tier build
What will you be doing with this PC? Be as specific as possible, and include specific games or programs you will be using.
My build will be used for primarily gaming and i will also like to stream on twitch to see if its something i like doing.
What is your maximum budget before rebates/shipping/taxes?
i would ball park to 500 but would spend more if the build is alot better for a few bucks more
When do you plan on building/buying the PC? Note: beyond a week or two from today means any build you receive will be out of date when you want to buy.
It really depends on the sales. with prime day coming up, the next ryzen series and cyber monday in a couple of months im really in no rush to build
What, exactly, do you need included in the budget? (ToweOS/monitokeyboard/mouse/etc)
Tower and maybe monitor , im still undecided as ive seen they can be expensive. however, ive heard that gaming on pc in 720/1080p is an experience that no gamer should miss.
Which country (and state/province) will you be purchasing the parts in? If you're in US, do you have access to a Microcenter location?
im in USA/pennsylvania, the closest microcenter is 90 mins away
If reusing any parts (including monitor(s)/keyboard/mouse/etc), what parts will you be reusing? Brands and models are appreciated.
i can reuse the keyboard, mouse, hard drive and monitors. i can always upgrade if i feel its needed
Will you be overclocking? If yes, are you interested in overclocking right away, or down the line? CPU and/or GPU? i would say no, maybe later at a very slight increase Are there any specific features or items you want/need in the build? (ex: SSD, large amount of storage or a RAID setup, CUDA or OpenCL support, etc)
*none at all, basic build
What type of network connectivity do you need? (Wired and/or WiFi) If WiFi is needed and you would like to find the fastest match for your wireless router, please list any specifics.
i have powerline adapter so i can use ethernet
Do you have any specific case preferences (Size like ITX/microATX/mid-towefull-tower, styles, colors, window or not, LED lighting, etc), or a particular color theme preference for the components?
No preference, maybe something small
Do you need a copy of Windows included in the budget? If you do need one included, do you have a preference?
No i get win 10
Extra info or particulars:
i know that i would like my build centered around ryzen and an nvidia gpu preferably. Also, VR capable as thats something i would like to try out.my custom pcs have always been on the very low end not being able to play hardly any games at the time of release, so i feel like any current gaming pc will be a huge upgrade and a new experience.
2020.09.19 06:30 throwaway3212349My (23m) girlfriend (23f) is throwing my mind for a loop and has been very different towards me, and I found her on tinder trying to find women
I'm on mobile so excuse the bad formatting I've been dating my girlfriend for around a year now, and recently it has come to my attention that many guys have hit on her throughout our relationship, and she has done nothing to curb or eliminate the inappropriate actions of these men. We're both gamers, so I understand that she has orbiters, guys that want to be with her at all times, and make it clear that they want something more most of the time. I've seen the messages at certain points in our relationship and I've talked to her about it, told her to tell them to stop, and tell me about the whole situation. But she hasn't done that, ever. It's been taking a toll on my own mental state, causing me to become paranoid about what she might be doing or what she might be dealing with or talking about with these guys. She's never acknowledged that these men are in fact trying to get with her at any point in our conversations, and is very adamant at all times that she KNOWS that these guys only want her as a friend. I trust her enough to know that she wouldn't cheat on me, but I don't feel right with her feeling like she has to take unwanted (presumably) attention from guys online. I really don't know what to do here, everything in my soul wants me to think that she is just too nice to say no or block them, but at the same time, my brain tells me she obviously likes the attention. I'm very confused about it. What do? On to the tinder situation, we actually have broken up for about a week, and thinking that it was really over, I redownloaded tinder (stupidly, I didn't even feel right about it) and I looked at her profile, and she had updated it, and changed a bit in it to say essentially she was in a relationship with a man, but she was bi-curious and needed more females in her life. I confronted her about it, and she told me that she was too scared to tell me about her confusing feelings because she thought I would leave her because of it. I don't really believe this, but I gave her a chance to explain. I never have given her even a slight idea that I would ever be homophobic, and I would have been 100% supportive of her trying to figure herself out, as long as we had also 100% communication, and set boundaries, etc. I really don't know what to do with this information, or this situation at all. Just before people might assume, the men I am talking about are only a few people that she talks to, I've had conversations with her other friends and they did actually seem okay.
2020.09.19 06:17 missingtheTOdds on face to face learning resuming 2021?
Obviously it’s a very difficult situation to predict, is honestly a long way away and has a lot of varying dependables - but given how things currently stand what do you think the chances of in person classes resuming for semester 1 2021 are? I’ve just transferred to RMIT from out of state so started Semster 2 this year. And I’m having an obviously difficult time finding in work in Melbourne, given the circumstances. I realistically can’t move to Melbourne without securing a job first so I’m trying to gauge some insight into how people think the 2021 academic year might be shaping up. Given the challenges with international students entering the country, I’m assuming at least for semester 1 online classes will continue to be offered for students who are outside of Victoria, while face to face learning can resume for local students. Obviously they are now in a position where they should have up to date content to deliver online learning, so I would assume there wouldn’t be a huge rush to force everyone back if they aren’t in a position to be back and come back safely. I’m just a bit stressed about the whole thing really and wondering if I should take a step back the job hunt if there’s a good chance I’ll be able to remain at home while continuing online study at RMIT for another semester. Yes I’m aware it’s all going to be speculation and assumptions for now but I am honestly interested in people’s opinions.
2020.09.19 06:15 OtherPromise13Former Friend (26M) Claims We Dated for 5 Years. We Didn't.
Not a very exciting one and a bit long, but it's been bothering me for a few days, and advice is very welcome. I (25F) met my former friend (now 26M) when we were both in high school at a summer camp. We became close friends and--as he lived a few states over--pen pals. We talked mostly by letter at first, but switched to phone calls for about seven years. I was--and still am--very bad at recognizing when someone has romantic interest in me. After a couple of years of friendship, he stopped by my house for an overnight visit. While there, he confessed to having feelings for me and asked me on a date. Though I'd never thought of him that way, I wanted to take his feelings seriously and agreed. It was incredibly awkward on my end--we saw a movie and had a very, very awkward peck, and I walked away knowing I had absolutely zero interest in a romantic relationship. I told him so the next day (he called to tell me he was in love with me, so it was...not a comfortable talk), and we tried to move on. He confessed two more times over the next five years, and I turned him down both times. I even explained that our future plans (he wanted to stay in his home state, I wanted to go overseas) did not work out, even if I did have feelings (which I did not). The last time we spoke, he came up for my birthday. I was extremely uncomfortable--he refused to stand more than a few inches away, sat as close to me as he could, etc. Right before he left, he asked me for a kiss. I said No. He left, I texted to make sure he made it back safe, that was it. We never spoke again. Can only guess why on his part, but I (finally) realized he either wouldn't or couldn't move on if nothing changed. Plus, I was extremely uncomfortable. Not talking to him was a pretty big relief, in all honesty. It's been four or five years, and I got an out-of-the-blue message from his girlfriend--she wants to know about our "dating history" and why I dumped him (still unsure whether she was jealous, feeling me out to see if we were having an affair, or trying to find out if there were personality problems she should be aware of). Apparently, he led her to believe we dated for FIVE YEARS. Again, we only went on one date, and I turned him down the next day. That's it. It's really not out of character for him to have done this--he frequently exaggerated his love life while we were friends to make me jealous, though it never worked and I didn't realize it until after--and it really bothers me, especially given everything that happened. Should I contact him about this? I really don't want to talk to him again, but the idea that he's telling girlfriends we dated for five years for...some reason (I answered the girlfriend briefly but honestly) genuinely makes me uncomfortable. It doesn't affect me or my life, and I'll almost certainly never meet the people he's telling this to; it's literally just the thought of it is uncomfortable. Should I just put it behind me and let it go?
2020.09.19 06:12 G_A93The timeshare presentations in Nevada are getting out of control
“...and walk away with a trip to beautiful Las Vegas Nevada! Enjoy a complimentary 5 day 4 night stay at any MGM casino resort all on us! No nonsense, no gimmicks. Just a bit of your precious time! Call today!” Yes. A vacation extravaganza all on the arm. Courtesy of the Hibou Timeshare Corporation. All it cost was your time and cooperation for a timeshare presentation. Simple enough yes? I wish I would have realized how much better a couple of overtimes would have served me, than taking myself to that horrid building. I was living in Phoenix AZ with my parents. Still half way bullshitting my final semester at college. I’ve got to be honest, I was checked out. It was summer..I was going to graduate and I had these final two classes in the bag. I could have failed my finals and still walked out with a C. Yes but that kind of luxury came at a price. My social life was the casualty in all of this. While I did have a tight knit of pals, my attendance to social gatherings were...well..less than punctual. I was usually doing work for one of my advanced classes. If not that, then I was pulling a shift at either of my jobs. Yeah..you could say I gave up the glamour of late night pizzas, puking in my friends car and hooking up with a random ASU frat slut for a heavier wallet...except I was paying everything out of my own pocket. My gas, insurance, cell, college. I wasn't exactly hiding cash in the walls. My parents worked hard but..never did make a living to give me and my siblings an extravagant lifestyle. We were grateful though. So when I heard that AD of how I could get a long needed vacation to party central Las Vegas, all for watching some BS timeshare I knew I wasn’t going to buy into, you bet your ass off I made that call. The phone only rang once before I got an answer, “Thank you for calling the Hibour Timeshare Corporation, how can we help you?” a voice rang through the phone. The voice sounded shrill and sickly. “Hi, I'm calling about the vacation in Vegas? Says that you need people for a presen..” “Yeessss.” the voice interrupted “The timeshare presentation, well...we would be so honored to have you” “Uhh..yeah...anyway I’d like to sign up? Is there a form online or do you take the information here?” I said..now feeling a bit tense. “Well I'll tell you what...pack your things for the vacation. When we are finished presenting..we can send you on our way to Vegas. We just need..a bit of your time.” That was that. He gave me the address, date and time of the meeting. The area was in a place called Amargosa Valley in Nevada. Luckily it was just about an hour away from Vegas. Before we parted ways on the phone, the operator said something...he said something that should have been a MAJOR red flag. “Okay then, you’re all set...we will see you July 28th at 4:30pm. Not a moment later” he laughed “Oh..and..one more thing, if you have some more specimens like yourself that might be interested in the free vacation...bring them along. They’ll all receive the same prize and you will receive $100 cash for every person you bring. We look forward to presenting you, Austin. Good day.” I never gave him my name. Still, my young dumb brain didn’t hear anything past $100 dollars. So I rounded up a few of my best pals and we were set to meet the reps over at the timeshare. The days leading up to the trip I couldn't get a hold of myself. It was so exciting. My first real vacation in...i couldn't remember how long. I longed for this type of adventure with my friends. We packed a truck full and set off to Amargosa Valley. I brought Luke, Larry and Adam. We’d been friends since the 3rd grade. We all moved to AZ from different parts of the country that summer, so being new kids we naturally ganged up together. Luke was from Texas..we called him Tex. Real big guy. Loved to work out but definitely was a bit of a boozebag. Larry was from Ohio. Quiet in public but probably the loudest of us all. Always had some political conspiracy to talk about. Then Adam..Adam was interesting. He was from Florida...or Georgia...or Nebraska. Adam never could keep it straight about where he was from. He always had some sort of story and backtrack about where he’d come from. I personally thought he was probably from another part of AZ and just wanted to fit in...so we humor him and let him be the nomad of our group. I myself was originally from California...things got pricey so we made the move to blistering AZ. That was my crew. No matter how long it had been, we were always as tight as ever. The ride was filled with laughing and gags. Stops at fast food joints and all around bullshitting. Yes it was an amazing time just driving there, we couldn't wait to get on with the meeting and head down to Boozeville USA. As we approached our destination...something felt off. Amargosa Valley had been a bit of a ghost town the whole drive. A gas station here. A small outlet there...but otherwise unpopulated. When we hit our destination we were met by a Chrome building. Smack center in the middle of the highway. As we parked at the only stall..we all took a look at each other. “Well this is...odd.” Luke said plainly. “Yeah man...are we really going there?” Adam shook out. Barely containing his fear. “Look guys, I know it looks weird. This place is really clean and bright in the middle of a dusty desert but c’mon. It's like what...an hour of our time? Within 2 hours we’ll be on our way to the dopest guys trip ever.” I said...selfishly. The guys all agreed. We got out, locked the car up and walked in through the sliding glass doors. The cool air hit us like a wave. Each of us breathing in the refreshingly cold air. The inside of this lobby..was also immaculate. Chrome everywhere. Right down to the sofas and chairs. A woman came from around the front desk. “You must be here to be presented. I see you brought more specimens! What a joy! Will you gentlemen please follow me?” She said. Specimens. Ugh. Her tone. That word still makes me shutter. Me and the boys looked at each other..all with the same should we do it look on our faces. Maybe it was the cold air enticing our sweaty brows. We’d been a poorly AC’D truck for a couple hours. Or maybe it was the ice cold drinks she presented in front of us. Whatever the case we followed her through a door behind the front desk and were met with a grand auditorium. It looked as if it could hold maybe 50 people. And all they had was me and my knucklehead friends. As we sat down, sucking down sodas and waters, a mans voice came over the intercom. “Welcome my friends to the Hibou Timeshare Corporation presentation. Today you will be examining the lifetime of these vessels. Determine whether or not you think they are a smart investment and make a choice if you would like to partake!” I recognized the voice. It was the same shrill tone that I set up the appointment with. “Now my dear friends, it's time to sit back with your favorite drink...and listen..” With that, a large projector screen came down from the celine. An old timey countdown began winding down. BEEP3...BEEP2...BEEP1 From what I can remember, I heard the screams of something...unnatural. A scream so high tone that I felt as if my ears would burst with blood. I tried clasping my hands over my ears but to no avail. The screams were too overpowering. As soon as it started, I passed out. I awoke looking at the lights on the celine. Unable to sit up. I could tell I was bareass naked on a metal table. I moved my head, the little that i could to see Adam next to me on another table. Naked as the day we were born. He was encased in what looked like a light purple energy field. Looking more in depth, I too had this field in front of me. Before I could speak the tables raised up. Bringing me upright. Bringing me face to face with Tex. To the left of me..Larry. “My friends, I present to you: Terramite 99-0 specimens.” a voice rang out. The same voice from the auditorium. “They are..of the male species. Strong. Cunning and above all loyal...if raised properly.” “HEY, you bastards. WTF is this! LET US GO!” Tex cried out. Before he could continue, the energy field tightened around him. Tex let out a scream that will haunt me for the rest of my life. The smell of burned flesh and hair filled the area. I would have puked had the horror of seeing my best friend being burned alive wasn't keeping my attention away from the smell. When the field lifted, Tex was stripped down to the muscle fibers. Hair burned down to the scalp. Tex convulsed until he finally relaxed into a hanging position on the table. “Now see..specimen is now sedated. Relaxed into a weaker position. With the energy field keeping him contained and the Auto-Reversal Time Warp engaging, we can have this specimen back into working shape immediately.” There was an electrical hum in the air. As before my eyes, Tex’s skin began to heal. His hair growing back. And all burns subsiding. It was as if nothing had happened to him. He still hung in limbo, but we could see the breath return to his chest.The rest of us let out bits of gasps of horror and astonishment. I could see Adam crying a bit in the corner of my eyes. A figure appeared from behind me. A tentacle graced my shoulder, not even phased by the force field. I caught sight of the creature. It stood around 7foot tall. Skin that looked human but a head that was elongated. No nose. And eyes that were black as coal. It had two tentacles for hands. I could not see its feet, as it was covered by a long gown. Larry screamed in anger. “Your...your...a...a…” he managed to get out before the creature silenced him. “Shhhh….I am...a salesman is all. Now my friends I will demonstrate the life cycle of the Terramite 99-0’s.” With that, Larry's forcefield began to hum. Right before my eyes Larry began to get...smaller. Not in stature necessarily, no, but in age. He went from being a young man..to a teenager..to that kid i met in 3rd grade..to an infant. His cries were extremely loud. Unaware of the horrors around him. At that moment I could hear Adam's field begin to hum. “Please no! Please!” Adam begged. “If you will direct your attention to our third pod:” Adam then began to scream as he went from a young man..to middle aged man...to retirement age and finally...to a decrepit old man. Hair as white as snow. Wrinkled beyond recognition. Each breath looking to nearly be his last. “From birth to the declining ages of 70 to 100 Terran years…the Auto-Reversal Time Warp pods are the perfect tool to use when training your armys, your children, your slaves. Imagine...never having to replace workers. Never worrying if your training methods or punishments might go too far. Never losing a prisoner to death.” The creature said. Full of glee in his dead eyes. Between the crying of baby larry and incoherent babbling of old man adam, the room felt like it was spinning. Just when I thought things couldn't get any stranger, the rest of the lights came to life. The room we were in were surrounded by seats, similar to the ones we sat in. However, sitting in these seats were ghastly creatures of different varieties. Some looked like the salesman creature. Others were ogreish. Large bodied creatures covered in a film of slime. Some of them even looked human. It was the eyes though...their eyes were a teal color with white pupils. Many many creatures looked up me and my friends. All of them began clapping their hands in unison. The claps were deafening. The cries of the baby felt as if a baseball bat was connecting with my head every second. Adams babbling was terrifyingly disturbing. And Tex...hanging there. Eyes rolled back into his skull. I couldnt imagine the hell he began to feel. At this point I wondered what awaited my fate. The clapping stopped abruptly. “Oh...Austin...yes, well if you want to know what fate awaits you just shut your eyes. Shut your eyes and quietly count back from 3.” the creature said...was he reading my mind? Suddenly the urge to close my eyes overtook me. Almost as if I had no choice, I began counting down. 3….2….1…. Everything went black. I wasn't sure if i was alive or dead...or somewhere in between. I saw nothing but black for what felt like a lifetime. And in an instant...I heard that same shrill scream. Only this time I could not cover my ears. I couldn’t feel my body but I felt an unimaginable amount of pain. As the scream grew to its peak, I slammed my eyes open. Trying to catch my breath. I was back in the car...we were all back in the car. The engine was on. Shitty ac blasting. The others were still out. I sat up in my seat. Not wanting to move too suddenly. The sun was beating down on us. I looked over at the time on the dash…July 28th 4:34 pm. I reached into my shirt pocket and I found several vouchers for the MGM hotels in Vegas along with $300 dollars. I also found a card that simply read “Hibou Timeshare Corp. would like to thank you for a bit of your time” The boys came too. All feeling rather groggy. “We all fell asleep huh?” Adam laughed. “We here?” They didn't remember a thing. Not one thing. Not going in...not the reception area...not the freaky timeshare presentation...not one bit. I lied...i told them that while they were sound asleep, we arrived a little earlier than expected. The presenter had an emergency and left our vouchers at the front desk and apologized profusely. “Wow, what a gentleman!” Tex laughed. “We definitely owe it to him to sit through another timeshare, probono.” Larry added. I think it's safe to say that I will not be returning to this or any other timeshare. As I drove away I could see the building disappear in the rear view mirror. So if you’re traveling deep within the southwest of the United States and hear an ad for a free vacation that's too good to be true...do yourself a favor..turn off the radio, call into work and ask for some overtime..because nothing is ever given for free.
2020.09.19 06:06 gabagoo93Does my bF just want to sleep with someone else or is this just about a fantasy? What should I do?
My BF [M28] and I [F27] were engaged in December 2016. Two weeks before he proposed, we had group sex with another couple. It was something he always wanted. I did not. After it really messed me up and I changed my flight to go back to the US early [we living in Europe at the time]. Right before I left, he proposed. It felt wrong from the begining. I knew we weren’t ready to get married after what just happened. Fast forward to January of 2019, and he is determined to have a more adventurous sex life. We agree to go to this sex club [like a regular night club, but they have an attached building that is like all for just sex. It was the craziest thing I have ever seen.] On our way there, we talked a lot about what was going to happen, and we were just supposed to be going to see what it was like. Well, he ended up fucking some girl sitting on the sofa next to me. As you can imagine, it was soul-crushing and heartbreaking. I tried to get over it, but I couldn’t. I ended the engagement in May 2019. I went out of state for a few months and cleared my head. I was really happy on my own. I was focusing on getting ready for the next year of school and being on my own. I was busy with my job and happy. I didn’t talk to him for a month or two, and then slowly, we began just civil conversation about our shared dog. Then I moved back to the same state as him to keep going to graduate school. When I got back to town and right before classes started, I got raped. I had a really hard time dealing with it. It was a friend I had known for years, and I just didn’t know how to process it all. My ex and I got closer again, and he began visiting me a lot. I think my emotional vulnerability was a factor. January 2020, we patched things up and got back together, but we had been back together in all sense but title since around the start of November or late October. Now, September 2020, he keeps saying that sex is too vanilla, and he wants more. It is breaking my heart that after what the last time did to me. Besides breaking up, I went into a really bad depression, and my weight was an issue. I’m 5’9” and hardly weighed 120. Anyway, I don't know what to do now. He is saying he wants more, and I just don't know I can't so that. I don’t know what to do. If I don’t do it, I’m convinced he will just do it behind my back. ALSO, 1. he cheated when we were in college. It was only an emotional relationship because the other girl kept demanding he end things with me. 2. I found a BUNCH of porn on his phone that was transexual porn. Not an issue, but when I confronted him about it, he lied for 4 days and got confrontation and made it my fault. [after he cheated the last time, he told me I could look at his phone whenever I wanted to make myself feel better to prove he wasn't doing anything. I usually don’t, but I just got a feeling like he was hiding something] The lying is an issue for me. Trust has always been an area we struggled in. 3. I also found a BUNCH of messages from him to other people during the few months we were technically broken up, but when I thought we were back together. They were from after he asked me to get back together, but I said I wasn't ready to trust him or forgive him for what happened, and I didn't want to say yes, holding on to all that. I’m conflicted if I’m wrong for being hurt that he was messaging people and attempting to see them when he was making me think it was just us, and he was 100% committed to me. Maybe I’m wrong. I mean, he wasn't technically in a relationship. However, he stayed at my parent's house with me over the holidays during a large portion of the time in question. 4. I am still with him because outside of the VERY LARGE issues, he is excellent. My family life is extremely complicated, and he is fantastic when it comes to my parents. He is going to be a wonderful father, and I love his family. 5. I love him, and I want to make it work. I want to be the person he wants me to be. He knew when we first started dating. I had only ever slept with one other person. I wasn't slutty or wild. Nothing wrong with that at all. It’s just not my preference. I don't know how he could know all of that when we got together 8 years ago and then somehow wany me to change so much now. What do I do? Do I just give him what he wants and figure out a way to deal so I don't lose him? He told me the options are either we break up or do nothing, and he is miserable, and he just deals with himself. He has said he knows I won't do what he wants, but it feels like he is attempting reverse psychology or trying to guilt-trip me. How can I want to be in a relationship with him when he keeps telling me he will just carry on being miserable and unfulfilled? Just before he brought this, it felt like things were getting better. I don't know what to do. Should I stay with him and just make myself do what he wants? Should I stay with him and tell him I just cant and deal with him telling me that he will be unhappy to make me happy? (it feels very manipulative when he says this) Do I leave him? **** Edit*** He started wanting all of the extra sex stuff (swapping with another couple and threesomes) after I had a really difficult time and withdrew a lot from the relationship. There was a good 6 months to a year where I didnt initate sex and I was really depressed. He said durring that time I pushed him away and through porn he found other things he needed or wanted really badly.
2020.09.19 05:34 1-100000000New Political party proposed.
I found the following comment in the comments section at the bottom of this article on the macrobusiness website https://www.macrobusiness.com.au/2020/09/jobs-lift-all-about-bullshit/ Macrobusiness Member "Gunnamatta" proposed a new political party and outlined policy. I think that there is merit to the suggested policies and would make for an interesting discussion. Disclosure I am not "Gunnamatta". I am not a member of the macrobusiness website. I am just a regular reader of the non-paywall articles. I have copied and pasted the comment from "Gunnamatta" below:
GunnamattaMEMBERSeptember 18, 2020 at 2:03 pm That’s not bullshit………. This is Bullshit – Bullshit Australia! At this stage of the game it simply begs the question of whether it is the policy of the current Australian LNP government, headed by PM Scott Morrison, to completely trash the competitive basis of the Australian economy and to inflict lasting economic pain on all Australians. Further to that, if we think it was an ALP government (Gillard’s) which OK’d the Gladstone white elephant, and governments of both flavours which have looked the other way while Australian gas which once meant amongst the cheapest gas prices in the world for Sydney and Melbourne, and therefore cheap electricity, has become about the world’s most expensive – while both sides of politics try to nudge coal seam gas and fracking on a population all too aware of the environmental and health costs this entails – then the following question simply arise. Does Australia’s body politic – both mainstream sides including the Lberal Party, the National Party and the Australian Labor Party – have at its core an economic policy of completely trashing the competitive basis of the Australian economy and to inflict lasting economic pain on all Australians? Have Australian public sector data gathering, regulatory, and policy formulation organisations and departments been so corrupted that they do not identify the above? Have they been so neutered that they cannot report the above to Australian politicians? And at that point Are Australian political and public sector elites acting in the best interests of Australians? Are they accountable for acting in the interests and explaining their actions to Australians to a sufficient degree enabling Australians to feel that their politicians and senior policy makers are accountable to them? ….and if they are not, How can they be made more so? It is time for open revolt. I think it is time for a new political party which I would call putatively Bullshit Australia – the party to identify and deal with Australian Bullshit and to promote informed and data backed decisionmaking throughout the political and administrative bodies of Australia, and to hold politicians, public officials and corporate interests to account for past decisions made, starting with a permanent standing Australian Corruption Commission. (Edit removed members names) I propose we aim initially – the next Federal election – at trying to get up 4 Senators from each state. I propose we get as far as we can up the nose of the current ‘elites’ by constipating their policy platforms in the Senate. I think/suspect we currently lack women……. Key Slogan ‘This is Bullshit!’ Men and Women of Australia, Have you ever wondered about your energy costs ………‘This is Bullshit!’ Do you wonder why your salary hasnt gone up in donkeys years? ‘This is Bullshit!’ Do you work in a large organisation wondering why psychopaths inhabit the upper floors and you get stuck with meaningless KPIs? ‘This is Bullshit!’ Do you worry about if your kids will get a decent education in a government school while ‘elite’ private schools get more funding from all levels of government than your kids school does? ‘This is Bullshit!’ Do you wonder why your governments keep banging on about immigration needed for skills shortages when kids with Master degrees are joining the military as base grade grunts because there is nothing else for them to get into? ‘This is Bullshit!’ Do you wonder why Australia, the worlds largest gas exporter has the worlds most expensive gas in Sydney and Melbourne? ‘This is Bullshit!’ Do you wonder why foreign nationals traipsed on in and laundered money through Australian real estate so your kids need to move to Campbelltown to be able to afford a house, and hack out a 2 hour commute to a peanut paying gig every day? ‘This is Bullshit!’ Every time a mainstream politicians opens his mouth (or her mouth) in the public domain, just point out ‘This is Bullshit!’ Draft Policy Platform – for discussion/arguing about/ data provision I propose that the Bullshit Australia and the Macrobusiness cognoscenti run a full campaign in the upcoming election to get ourselves elected as the swing players, running on a platform revolving around (with negotiations/debate/argy bargy) the below……. – which would at least offer some sort of genuine left and data backed – and openly transparent – presence in parliament Policy Positions Constitution · Enshrine Medicare into Constitution · Enshrine ABC funding into Constitution · Enshrine Australian Bureau of Statistics funding into Constitution · Enshrine political party funding transparency into Constitution · Enshrine freedom from foreign influence legislation into constitution · Enshrine requirement for all candidates for every election in Australia to be approved by AEC prior to standing for parliament · Enshrine a National Crime & Corruption Commission into Constitution and give it investigatory powers. Taxation · End negative gearing · End capital gains tax dispensation · End health insurance rebate · Implement Federal Land tax · Remove PAYE taxation for those earning under 55K (but retain/create Medicare (4%), Defence (2%), ABS (1%) and ABC (1%) levy · Inclusion of family home in determination of access to the aged pension where the home is worth more than 500k. · Development and maintenance of publicly available database on Australian taxpayers [companies & individuals] Economic and Monetary Policy · Reinclusion of employee and community representatives on RBA Board. · Requirement for RBA to report quarterly to Parliament on monetary policy in relation to wages and housing costs · Requirement for RBA to report quarterly to Parliament on the effective use of taxpayers funds in relation to support for Australian banks and financial system entities. · Requirement for RBA, Treasury, and other government agencies (including ABS) to develop standards and monitor quality of life issues being faced by Australians (both on average and by decile) and report on how policies being adopted by them influence a range of demographics · Mandate the creation of new entity to be called the Australian personal public and corporate debt commission to produce analysis on the debt, indebtitude and debt servicing of Australians and Australian entities This organisation is to have representatives of the RBA, Treasury, State governments, local governments, retail banks and community organisations at a board level. · Requirement for RBA to report quarterly to Parliament on money creation and the beneficiaries of money creation over the preceding quarter and year, and forecast such into the future. Housing · Commence federal government building housing · Implement competitive GST Bonus payable to states which do best on housing affordability and housing creation · Enshrine right to housing into Constitution · Enshrine a National Probity and Veracity test for all funds used for housing purchases. Urban Design and Construction · Establish a set of national standards for residential design and construction. Enforce these standards with criminal penalties. · Establish ‘Plot Ratios’ in the state planning systems to ensure adequate green space on residential blocks. · Establish a national policy to harvest storm water for urban parks and open spaces. · Establish access to natural light as a property right. · Re-establish the professional registration of building related engineering services. · Outlaw private building surveyors and re-establish the system of Municipal Councils administering building standards. Politicians · Mandate real time visibility of politicians allowances and outlays · Mandate Housing affordability requirement for all politicians to reaffirm whenever they propose legislation · Audit all payments to or on behalf of politicians · Mandate funding transparency for all levels of Australian government (Federal State and Local), and a donations and gifts declaration requirement for all persons above a particular level (about SOG C in APS) in all public services of budget funded organisations (including Universities) · Mandate rate of politicians salary at 2, 3 , or 4 times average full time earnings. · Mandate access to politicians super is only accessible by vote of the seat which politician represented each 5 years at rate of 25% 50% 75% or 100% of standard politician rate. · Mandate all politicians and all political aspirants seek and gain clearance from Australian Electoral Commission on suitability for office regarding S144 of the Constitution & fiscal relationships with the Australian Taxpayer Industrial Relations · Reintroduction of the Australian Industrial relations Commission with powers to intervene in cases of Award and Agreement transgression – whether brought before it by parties or now. · Additional role for revived AIRC will be to oversee employee superannuation payments, their payment by employers, and the effective deployment of these funds as regards to the interests of employees (and with a view to minimising longer term budget and pension impacts on government outlays). · Additional role for revived AIRC to oversee use of contractors, contracting arrangements, and corporate entities to ensure employees are appropriately addressed for entitlements. Climate Environment & Agriculture Mandate of Inland Water Commission Abolition of tradable water rights Audit of all inland water resources and adoption of real time water availability monitoring. An investigation into the viability of major water users in the Murray darling basin (eg cotton farming) and the impact these have on water for other water usage in the basin Mandate of Australian Native Flora and Land Clearance Commission and audit of all Flora on Australian landmass and adoption of real time monitoring General policies to proomote reforestation where Australian Native Flora and Land Clearance Commission designates appropriate Mandate of Australian Salt Office to promote annd monitor management of salt issues in land use Energy · Mandate gas reservation policy to ensure globally cheap electricity and gas. · Mandate solar panels and hot water on all new dwelling construction · Mandate tax deductability of residential and corporate solar battery investment Defence · Enshrine right to lifetime medical care for all Australians who have served in the military more than 7 years · Mandate immigration rights (for individuals and families) for those foreign nationals agreeing to serve 10 years in ADF · Mandate that no deployment of more than 200 ADF personnel to any particular offshore location or theatre of operations can occur without debate and vote in joint sitting of parliament. Education · Remove student visas from right to residence and housing purchase · Remove student fees from first degree in science, mathematics, finance, medicine · Increase training of medical practitioners and access to medical degrees · Remove all public funding for non government schools Immigration · Mandate economic diversity criteria · Mandate country of origin criteria so that applicants of no nation comprise more than 10% of the total immigration intake in any one year. · Enshrine 70k NOM per annum as Immigration base, with priority to refugees and families · Allow NOM above 70k per year only where economic diversity, debt, education, housing affordability, intergenerational quality of life and employment conditions are being met. · Allow temporary visas in circumstances (eg academic world, some science) where globalised workforce would expect it. · End temporary work visas unless companies can demonstrate they have made attempt to develop their own skills in their own workplaces, or made genuine attempt to source skills within Australia. · End Special Investor Visas (except where entity is contributing to export or import competing business in Australia employing more than 10 Australian employees) Free Trade Agreements · Mandate audit of all Free Trade Agreements entered into prior to signature and ratification by Australian parliament · Have productivity commission audit all extant FTAs Australia is signatory to Foreign Policy Foreign Aid with a focus on: – The Pacific – Supporting nations on the frontline of refugee crises to make safe camps there with the hope they can return. – Empowering women in developing countries to make decisions on family size. Public Service · Commence regionalisation policy for major APS agencies · National audit of all APS outsourcing since 2000 · Mandate that no company identified to shift profits offshore can receive government contract (onus is on company to prove and gain certification from ATO) · Mandate that all contracted services in Australian public sector are audited and re[ported on to parliament for effective use of public monies, and with all transition costs (including relocations and redundancies) included in that consideration. · Mandate that selection for all Senior Executive Service Positions in the Australian Public Service be subject to approval of APS Probity Commission · Mandate creation of Evaluator General for all public policy proposals · Mandate all policy that can be based on empirical evidence should be so based · Mandate any policy that is intended as an interim measure have a review date and terms of review attached to it, and · Mandate that all policy Have a clear plan for the future of the nation at a federal and state level, so policy has a long term rather than short term vision Social Welfare · Make unemployment the same as study assistance · Re Establish Commonwealth Employment Service · Mandate requirement for all calls to all social welfare services be monitored, and answered within 10 minutes Internet Data · Mandate that all Australians own the data collected on them Royal Commissions · Royal Commission into the Tertiary Education Sector and Links to Foreign States · Royal Commission into Private Indebtedness · Royal Commission into the Funding of Australian Politicians · Royal Commission into Housing Affordability · Royal Commission into the advent of COVID 19 – its Origins, entrance to Australia, and effects on the Australian Public · Royal Commission into the value for the Australian people & Impact on budget of Australian Public Sector Outsourcing and the Embedding of Private Sector Providers into Australian Public Sector Service Provision · Royal Commission into Housing Affordability
2020.09.19 05:21 Little_Winged_Potato[Pennsylvania] I filed an anonymous police report with my twp. police non-emergency, but they said there’s nothing they can do
First time posting here. For the past two weeks, my adult next-door neighbor has been playing basketball almost daily, for hours on-and-off each day. He positioned his freestanding hoop in his driveway so that it’s adjacent to my house’s exterior. I’ve been working from home since early March, and while my bedroom and makeshift office are both at the far end of the house, I can still hear the sound of constant dribbling and banging of the ball hitting the backboard. And yes, I’ve tried using headphones, earplugs, white noise, etc. with no success. Confronting him about the issue is off the table as I’ve had a previous history of altercations with him since I bought my house 10+ years ago. It was mostly noise disturbances, but he’s also been hostile towards me (ex.: Making fun of my weight, calling me racist obscenities, etc.). I’ve sent my township police department an email yesterday (9/17), detailing the issue and listed the date/times of the noise. And tonight, I heard him playing basketball again when I woke up from a nap around 10 p.m. I called the non-emergency line, explaining the situation. One of the officer’s called me back, stating that there’s nothing he can and won’t do regarding the noise as what the neighbor’s doing is still technically legal. The only way he will enforce it would be if said neighbor were to have a 5-on-5 game or firing up power tools at odd hours. I’m at my wit’s end, my anxiety is through the roof, and I don’t know what to do. Do I have any other options left? Given the current situation, I’m unable to move, I own my house and do not live in an HOA. If I were to sell my house now, I would lose a significant amount of money as there’s still much work to be done on the place.
2020.09.19 05:16 Chrisc9234Uniting Crypto Holders, One UNI at a Time During a Crisis
It was about 12:30 AM. What looked to be an easy night on the nursing unit turned into quite the busy night. Being an RN, you never know what your night is going to look like walking onto the unit. After about 4 hours of non-stop running around, checking vitals, medicating my patients and getting everyone settled in for the night, I took a moment to breathe and opened my phone. Being a member of several telegram groups and even being an admin in couple different groups, I looked at my notifications and saw someone mention they had gotten an airdrop of a new token called UNI. "I shit you not. I just got $35,000 worth of this UNI token. I used Metamask A LOT", said one active user in a telegram group. I opened my Metamask wallet and saw nothing. Disappointed, I put my phone down and began charting. For about an hour I wondered why I didn't receive the token. I'd used Metamask quite a bit. So I opened my phone again and shot the person who had posted a message. After talking, he further explained you needed to claim your tokens first by going to Uniswap. I got a rush of excitement. I dropped what I was doing, went to my charge nurse, and said "I'm going on break! Don't bother me for 45 minutes!" Being as though my hospital blocks many of my favorite sites involving crypto, specifically Uniswap, I always bring my laptop with me just in case I need to make an emergency trade or liquidation since I have quite a diverse portfolio at my disposal. When I opened my laptop and logged in I saw the message; "Claim your UNI", it said. As I clicked on the claim button and processed it, I began to see the price of UNI increasing. What was worth $1.30 was now worth $2. My heart began to race and I was in utter disbelief at the fact that I had just received 1200 UNI tokens now worth $2,400. For almost my entire adult life I have been in debt or behind when it comes to my finances. In late 2017, my wife and I managed to scrap up enough money by working extra hours and living modestly in order to buy our first home. It was exciting but an extremely large commitment, both financially and psychologically. There is a lot that comes with owning a new home at 25, but we were both happy even though it put us back behind financially when we had just seemed to start seeing the cash rolling in and the light at the end of the debt tunnel seemed brighter. On top of that we had our first child a month after we bought our home. 4 months later, I dropped my hours to 24 a week from 45+ and began nursing school. The future was both bright and dull. A rough 18 months was ahead, but everything after that time period would be easier. At least that's what I kept telling myself. Fast-forwarding to May 2019, I completed my nursing program and became an RN. It took me 5 months to find a job, so the financial implications of taking time off from work to go to school, not being able to apply for loans due to poor credit, and using every bit of credit card utilization I could to make up for it began to really show. I was about $10,000 in credit card debt. I owed $38,000+ in student loans. I was late 5 times on my mortgage in those 18 months, and my credit score was in the low 500's. October came, I started my first job as an RN on a Med-Surge/Orthopedic floor and I began to see a slow but steadily increasing income which I not seen before. Fast-forwarding further to March 2020, my finances were becoming more manageable, but the stress of Corona-virus was just beginning. I want to be clear and say I am extremely thankful and lucky to have maintained employment and a form of financial security in that employment because of my career path, but every day was now a battle. An unknown enemy was at the doorstep of my place of work. Anxiety was at an all-time high, but I kept in mind the reason I began working as an RN to begin with, and I treated anyone and everyone who needed my help, whether they had COVID-19 or not. I will not lie and say I handled it like a champ. For a good month and a half, every shift began with a trip to the bathroom to calm myself down from an anxiety attack. Little was known about the virus and the mortality rate was over 5% worldwide at that point, so I truly wondered if I would be one of the unlucky ones who caught the virus and passed away. 5 days after the U.S. began to shut down states, my wife and I found out she was again pregnant. I wanted desperately to serve the public to my fullest potential to help combat this epidemic, but I also wanted to make sure I went home safely to my family without compromising them. On top of this, finances were still stressful and there was a cloud hanging over my head after the CEO of my hospital group announced there may be layoffs in the near future. Fast-forward one more time. To September 16th, 2020. My stimulus check had hit 2 months prior. I began reinvesting in crypto after stopping during nursing school. I began chipping away at debt in March to try to alleviate the economic fallout at hand. Working overtime helped. A second job in a nursing home helped further. There were many things motivating me to work hard, and I wasn't about to lose that motivation because of the epidemic. After seeing the $2400 in Uniswap in my Metamask account. I took a month to stop and think about what I wanted to do with this gift. Do I hold? Transfer to BTC or ETH? Buy that low cap gem I've been keeping an eye on for 2 months? It was a tough decision. I also thought that it might not be a bad idea to take profit on this one. So I opened up my bank account and looked over my finances. I had recently paid off a large portion of the debt I mentioned earlier. I was down from $10,000 in credit card debt to about $4,600. I cannot tell you enough how stressed out I had been taking the little extra hard earned cash I had and paying off credit cards quicker. Suddenly, I thought, "This $2,400 would go a LONG way." I had my answer. Taking this money and paying off more than half of my remaining credit card debt was the go to decision. By the time I had finished transferring my ETH from Coinbase to pay the fees to swap, the price had gone up even further, and I took this money and immediately paid off the majority of that credit card debt, and even spent some of it on lowering my student loans. For the first time in my adult life, I had full control of my financial situation, and the amount of stress relief I experienced when I sank into my chair and took a long deep breath is a feeling I will never forget. The story I shared is a true one and very personal to me. That's why I decided to sit down and write about it. The last 3 years of my life have been a crazy roller coaster of emotions, failures, and accomplishments. The last week of my life has been the most accomplished week I have ever experienced financially due in part not only because of good and precise decision making, but also partly because of some strangers who created a decentralized exchange. They created something anyone in the cryptocurrency community could use and enjoy. And for reasons unbeknownst to myself or anyone else, they decided to do something absolutely selfless and extraordinary in sending people free money in UNI tokens just for utilizing Uniswap. Everyone knows how crippling the Corona-virus pandemic has been economically and financially for the entire world. Stimulus checks were given in the U.S. but it wasn't enough for a lot of people, and many people in other countries weren't even given that relief. What the Uniswap team did was not only selfless and extraordinary, it gave people hope. It gave people something to smile about. It put food on the table for the hungry. It paid for educational supplies for the young pupils looking to learn and grow academically. It provided a security blanket for people who did have enough to get by. It paid this months rent. It paid off someones credit card. It gave someone the opportunity to make someone else happy because maybe a surprise gift or just a fun night out was out of the question. It did many more things, and it will continue to do many more things, thanks to those who decided to think about the people who made Uniswap grow into one of the most unstoppable forces the cryptocurrency industry has ever seen. As a cryptocurrency enthusiast, I couldn't be more proud to be a part of this growing community. Isn't this what its all about? This is the prime example of how decentralization can change the world. When individuals can make the right decision and do the right thing just because they can. When they can do what many governments like the U.S. government can't in providing further relief for the people (in regards to being unable to come up with a bipartisan bill for a second stimulus check). I have no doubt in my mind, WHATSOEVER, that what we just witnessed is one of many acts that will further prove and shape how cryptocurrency and blockchain will change the world we live in today. Forever. I am certain that the people behind this generous act have one regret; that more people didn't benefit. Another thing is for certain. With less stress, and more financial security, I can sleep better at night. I can focus more on taking care of my patients and block out the negative thoughts of my finances. I can focus on taking better care of my wife as she approaches her due date. I can focus more on making my son happy. I can focus on appreciating my life and everything I have. All because of a random act of kindness. This is a call for all of us in the cryptocurrency community and industry to follow this approach and be kinder, wiser, and more thoughtful of others in a space that is known for its ruthlessness. The team behind Uniswap lead by example. It's time for us to follow suit.
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